Mark Keough Ministries

A Christian singles ministry to provide biblical perspective on the Single life (dating, parenting, forgiveness, finding a new mate). The ministry is located in The Woodlands, TX website: www.markkeoughministries.org

Sunday, October 23, 2005

Finding a Mate on the Internet

Periodically I am asked by singles - Is it possible to find the right person through computer dating services? My answer to them is that the Bible is silent on the issue of computer match making. Therefore it is a matter of freedom if someone wants to explore the possibilities of meeting a mate on-line.

That being said however, there are some very real issues associated with this kind of involvement that from a biblical perspective must be considered. The first issue to be considered is what I call The Time Factor

The scripture teaches that every prudent man act’s out of knowledgeProverbs 15:16.
To acquire knowledge about someone it simply takes time.

In my class on How to Fall Into the Arms of God’s Right Man or Woman for you, I teach that the right kind of relationship will happen within a time frame that fosters knowledge about the other person

People, please listen to me on this issue. If you are thinking about launching into a life long relationship with someone, you cannot possibly know what you need to know about that person unless you are able to be with them over time. I like to call this “being with them through the seasons of life”. This means that you must observe them in their environment living out their life.

Don’t you think that it is important for you to see how they handle their money? To know how they spend, save and give takes time.

How do they interact with other people and couples? To know about these relationships takes time.

Doesn’t it make sense that you should see how they handle their kids? Especially in relationship to time spent with you? This takes time.

What about how they deal with their parents. How a woman treats her dad or how their parents treat each other? This will tell you volumes about how they will treat you. This takes time.

You also need to observe how they deal with their work situations both up times and down times. How do they treat their supervisor and subordinates?

Wouldn’t you like to observe their personal character traits like honesty and morality? How do they deal with the opposite sex in you presence or when they are not in your presence.

All of these situations can be overlooked if you move too fast and if you have built your relationship strictly over what you have been told in computer messages or telephone interactions. You cannot possibly see this person in the seasons of life.

The second issue to be considered is What didn’t you tell me about yourself?

Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men whose words are perverse…whose paths are crooked and are devious in their ways.
Proverbs 2:12, 15

It takes wisdom to determine what is true and what is not true. And it takes even more wisdom to know what is true and what is left out!

Computer dating is predicated upon profiles that are assumed to be true and complete.
Let’s assume that what is in their profile is true! How do you know if it is complete?

You have no idea what a person’s past will reveal unless the past is brought out in the open and confronted. How will you know if there has been sexual or physical abuse in their past that will almost certainly sabotage their future with you if they choose to leave this information out of their profile?

How will you know about past relationships they have had with the opposite sex or even the same sex if they choose to leave this information out of their profile?

What about issues of character having to deal with indebtedness and business dealings?

A dating profile is kind of like a resume, it puts forward the best of a situation while leaving the indiscretions to be disclosed at a later date if needed. It is not what is said that you have to worry about! It is what is not said that makes computer dating a potentially very scary thing.

The third issue is secrecy.
How do you know they are not already attached to someone else?

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Saturday, October 15, 2005

A Recent Question / Answer

" I can't seem to forgive myself for past issues. Is this normal?"

Be a peace maker with yourself!


One of the major problems that singles have is the problem of being at peace with themselves.


When I became single, I struggled with the shame of divorce, the separation from my kids, having to manage two house holds finances and a plethora of issues that married people do not have to deal with.


Even if one has never been married most singles have been in relationships that have soured and the residual feelings are basically the same as someone having gone through divorce!


Shame, blame, feeling like a victim, regret, “if I just would have…”, “if I could change the past”, are all feelings that if you allow them to will keep you in bondage forever and will result in sabotaging future relationships.


Stop beating yourself up! You cannot change the past but you can change the future!


To be sure there are many ways to change the future but here are three things that I have learned to do to begin to be at peace with myself.


#1.Realize that God has ordered your life in such a way that you are exactly where you are supposed to be! God is sovereign! He has been with you in your failures and defeats and weather self imposed or the result of another, all of your life is part of a plan to realize God’s purpose in your life!
In Acts 17:26-27 the Lord states that He has ordered our lives in such a way as to cause us to reach out to Him.


Are you reaching out to him? If you are, just accept the past for what it is and begin to visualize how God is going to use your past for your future impact in the lives of others!


#2, Realize that you are forgiven for your past indiscretions and failures. All you have to do is ask God to forgive you and He will do it. This takes faith but if you know Christ, you have been given that faith to believe that you are forgiven.

1 John 1:9 says that if we confess our indiscretions he is faithful and just to forgive us of those indiscretions and to clean up our consciences so that we are at peace with ourselves. (Keough Paraphrase). He cleanses us from all unrighteousness!


#3, Develop a spirit of thankfulness for the past and all of its victories and defeats.


This is a tough one but when you begin to verbally thank God for each and every thing that has happened in your past there is a peace that comes over you that is almost unexplainable!


My wife Kim continually keeps me on track in this. When I begin to become a complainer about the past, she simply says “have you given thanks for those issues in the past?”


In 1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18 The Lord tells us to be joyful always, pray continually and give thanks in ALL circumstances. And we all know what “all” means…all means all and that is all all means!


I believe that when we give thanks there is a subconscious realization that everything is ok. Sometimes you have to keep giving thanks for the same things but when you do everything changes and you have peace.


If you just do these three things your whole life will begin to make sense and you will begin to be at peace with yourself.


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Sunday, October 02, 2005

dating someone not connected to god

Being connected to God is the most basic principle for finding the right one for you. If God created the world and everything in it and if he has shown himself to be real through Jesus Christ and if Jesus really was raised from the dead and is God and if he has told us to be hooked up with only those connected to God through Him , that my suggestion is that you begin to date only people who know Jesus as their savior. This will eliminate 2/3rds of the potentials that you have been dating. In your present relationship you need to tell your friend that if they are not a follower of Christ that they do not qualify to be in  a permanent relationship with you.That of course presupposes that you want to do what Jesus Christ would have you to do.Check out the scripture 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 in the bible. 
Mark and Kim Keough
www.markkeoughministries.org
"You are awesome!"

Friday, September 30, 2005

Information for Singles in Houston, Texas

Looking for a Christian perspective on dating, single parenting, and your life?


If you are in the Houston area, you are invited to attend a Singles class, led by Mark Keough, at WoodsEdge Church - The Woodlands, Texas.


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Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Finding God's Right Man or Woman for You


Welcome to our Singles Ministry blog.

Are you a single adult attempting to find your purpose in your life through a relationship with another person?

Through hundreds of conversations with single adults, just like you, I have learned that you believe, that if you could just find the right person... you would find happiness, meaning, a companion for life, friendship and peace.

Are your frustrated because you can't find the right person?

Let's be real... to find this person, you have gone to bars, joined health clubs, shopped in upscale grocery stores, logged into Internet chat rooms and yes even bounced around to various church singles groups. Do you relate? No wonder you are frustrated, what you are seeking is ... almost impossible.

So what is the answer... to finding that right relationship?
Are you ready to find peace in your life?

Hello, my name is Mark Keough. My wife Kim and I have founded Mark Keough Ministries upon our own experiences.

So how can you find God's right man or woman for you? The first thing is to... Stop the hunt. That means stop looking for someone else to fulfill you. Start by shifting the focus off to making your number one priority "getting right with God". By opening your heart to the truth, God will reveal your individual life purpose.

From my own personal experience, once I knew what I was supposed to be doing with my life, I took action and started a new singles ministry. Suddenly my daily life made sense and I felt purpose. Just about that same time, Kim had reached the same conclusion in her life, that she needed to get working on God's purpose as well. She started a singles ministry too, within the same community. Through mutual friends who saw our passion for ministering to singles, we were introduced and the rest, as they say... is history!

Our mission at Mark Keough Ministries is to help YOU, the single adult, find fulfillment through the discovery of God's purpose for your life.

Kim and I have successfully helped hundreds of singles, just like you, over that past eight years find a life purpose, attract healthy relationships and yes, even perform marriages.

It can happen for you.

God has a plan for your life! In this blog we will focus on how to find God's Right Man or Woman for You. We promise... You are in for a life changing experience!

We look forward to your posts and participation!


Live in the Houston area? Kim and I invite you to visit the Singles Class (Sundays at 9:30am) at WoodsEdge Community Church in The Woodlands, Texas.